If You Give a Mouse a Cookie is one of M.J.’s favorite shows. I didn’t realize ridiculous kid’s shows could inspire me to write a blog post.
“Winning is never worth leaving a buddy behind.”- Mouse, If You Give a Mouse a Cookie
This quote reminded me about how often we compare ourselves to others. I think this is especially a common thing for women to do. I know I used to do it all the time. I still struggle with it sometimes but not as much as I used to. I will think, that person got married, that person had a baby. Why haven’t I done either of these things? Then after I got married and had a kid I would think, that person has a successful career, that person graduated from grad school. No matter what we do in our lives it is always possible to compare ourselves to others.
It is okay to try to better yourself but don’t base your success on other people’s. Everyone’s journey is different. I have told Dan before that I wish I was more successful but he reminds me there are many different definitions of success. I am blessed with a wonderful family. I love to volunteer and help people. And at least five people read my blog! Sometimes I feel bad that I don’t make any money but with Dan’s work schedule it makes more sense for me to stay home with M.J. And most jobs I would qualify for wouldn’t be very much money so I would only be paying for daycare. I’m thankful we are blessed with Dan’s career so I don’t have to work for us to afford the things we need.
It is also common to compare our looks to other people. I will think, I wish I was as pretty as her, I wish I was that skinny and flexible. But everyone has imperfections. Everyone has things they don’t like about themselves. It’s important to focus more on the things you like about yourself. I like my curly hair and my smile. Even though my hair is crazy sometimes I’ve decided to like it.
When we see other people becoming successful and growing it is important to be happy for them. It makes life so much easier when we are happy for our friends instead of envying them. Remember there are many different definitions of success. We are constantly growing and changing. Don’t compare your success to other people.
“Yet true godliness with contentment itself is great wealth. After all, we brought nothing with us when we came into the world, and we can’t take anything with us when we leave it. So if we have enough food and clothing, let us be content.”- 1st Timothy 6:6-8 NLT